I hope that International Women’s Day is not some sort of breaking news for you. If it is you still have time to run as if a grenade is ready to explode and buy some overpriced gift as the merchants rub their hands at the sight of a lost lamb in the midst of the hungry wolves.
I believe that going with the crowd when it comes to celebration is wrong. As usual, when many people decide something and go in one direction, that way is usually the wrong path. Don’t get me wrong, I am a woman and I love the idea of appreciating womanhood. But something in this overinflated show of buying love feels off. I can’t help but wonder how many men will run tomorrow or on the 26th of march to buy a rose for a woman that they love.
I think it feels off even for the men. It is this pressure of having to conform. Everyone does it and if you don’t do it too the basic assumption will be: what a prick! Every woman expects it because of the show that is happening around her. Both sexes fall victims to this objectifying of love.
I vote for daily small celebration instead. Every day when a special woman/man that you love is still in your life it is a great day. The other way around is true as well, let’s not forget about the men! We need to learn to show love in small gestures. A kiss, a hug, a kind word can tell the love that a 1000 roses couldn’t. I think it feels more genuine when it is not forced. We can all agree how awful it feels to receive someone’s loving gesture or gift knowing that it was done out of a sense of duty.
Women should celebrate themselves daily. Put on that lipstick and fancy dress every day. Smile and be joyfull. If you are a man you do not need to wait for this kind of days to show her appreciation. It will cost you extra money and it will not feel authentic. If you feel it in your heart to go with the crowd because it is what you desire then this day was great for you. If you just conformed you are sitting now in a fancy restaurant pretending to enjoy some duck wrapped in cosmic orange peels just to show the world that …well..you love.
Love is a noble feeling. It does not need the cheapness of conformity. It needs authenticity, simplicity, genuine intention. That’s it. Love is simple. Every single day. Somehow at the end of writing this article a song popped into my head. It feels almost right to end this post with it. Enjoy!
Somehow at the end of writing this article a song popped into my head. It feels almost right to end this post with it. Enjoy!
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